No one will judge you for trying to better yourself….

So you are sitting in a chair in the middle of a room, surrounding by people that you have known sense the time you were born.  Each one of these people represent to you a memory, a moment, and maybe a life lesson.  All these people (as you are sitting), start to walk around you in a circle.  Over and over again, they keep walking around you as if you are the sun with all the planets orbiting around it.  Every time the same person comes around, you are reminded of what this memory means to you.  Make sense?

Now for all of us watching you in this ‘humankind whirlwind’, we are all thinking to ourselves…. “Just get up and leave.”   Well that’s easy to say when you are watching another person’s circumstances.  But what are you doing about your own?  You may not want to face facts, but we all have this ‘whirlwind’ going around us all all times.  There are few people that have ever been able to get up and leave the chair and try to move on.  But this doesn’t mean you have to conquer the universe, it just means you need to realize that your are allowing your current circumstances to happen.

Recently, I was talking with a good friend, and she had told me that she had taken “2 steps back” in talking with a former man, a relationship she once had.  This man was nothing but toxic and brought so much pain in this girls life.  She hadn’t spoken to him in several weeks… but she allowed him to have a voice again in her life.   I had to bring up to her attention all the pain this guy had brought to her and her two children.  I had told her: “Hell is very warm, but the closer you get… you will burn.”  Then I told her that she owed everything to her children and not this guy..  This is what made her get up from that chair with all the people circling around. ” One battle at a time will win the war.”

Closure for ourselves is so very important but, don’t have to sink back into a toxic situation in order to find it.  A reminder of pain should be enough to move you forward.  But what is it doesn’t??   Some people like that feeling just because they are getting some form of attention or a emotional flare.  This is when we are toxic to ourselves.  The moment that you  allow someone to come back into your life that did nothing but bring you pain, is the moment you need to wake up.  You are allowing this pain in your life…. you can change the situation, but you have to want change.  

Ask yourself this question, “Is what I am getting ready to do bring me pain or pleasure? ”  Pretty simple question right?  But if you are having pain, then you are not moving forward.  What happens next is what really hurts.   Any other emotion we have, even good ones, will only hurt more.  Because we want out so bad and we can feel the good outside the door, but it is our own hand that has shut the exit door.

In order to have peace, we must find peace within all of our own mistakes and not try and repair things that brought us so much pain.  You are allowed to get up from your chair and excuse yourself.  No one will judge you for trying to better yourself….  this is where you need to breathe and allow the exit door to open, walk out, and never open the door again.

Life has so many doors, so many experiences, and each will have new hopes and lessons.  Keep opening new doors and become strong in yourself. 

Life in-Focus,

Kevin  aka:  Tall Guy With The Camera 





About Kevin Talley Photography

Louisville Based Photographer. Published in Oxygen Magazine, Women's Health Magazine Former Model with Elite and Wilhelmina in Miami and NEXT & Ford in Los Angeles.

Posted on January 29, 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Giving ourselves permission to let go of something we feel attached to is sometimes the most difficult thing to do. But once we allow ourselves to, as you say, get up out of the chair and walk away, we feel an immense sense of relief and freedom. And at the end of the day, it really doesn’t even matter whether others judge you for your decision or not. It’s the peace of mind for yourself you are seeking and not the approval of others. Another insightful blog from you… 🙂

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