Why people do what they do, even if it hurt..
A little more than 8 years ago I had gone through a very difficult time with someone in my life. After leaving the situation, I found myself “burning up inside”, wanting to know “why? . ” I had spilled my feelings to so many people over and over again, but never found my answers. What was my answer? Where do I go? Well, I had found a book called “Total Forgiveness”. Now I’m not trying to sell you anything, but this book did help me look into an area of my emotions that I have not touched.
Forgiveness and love are the foundations of Christianity. But here is one the insights I was missing out on… Forgiving Yourself. Yes, read that again. Remember, no matter how much someone has hurt you, there are two sides of every story. In the other person’s eyes, you have hurt them on some level.
There is something that we humans all have in common, rather you realize it or not. Now read this next line very carefully and write it down. “We are all trying to find order in our lives at every level.” Now I know that doesn’t seem to sound like a breakthrough line, but if you understand what it means… then it is a breakthrough. Here is an example that I have used in my seminar talks….. You walk into a friends house and notice there is a picture on the wall that is slightly crooked. What do you do? You walk over and straighten the picture. Well, a few minutes later, your friend noticed the picture being crooked so they walk over and straighten back.
Now.. this may sound weird at first. But if you seem what is going on in each persons mind…. they both see things differently then the other person. What maybe right in your mind is not right in the other persons. Now do you understand? We are all trying to “straighten” our own picture everyday.
So with this information, I want you to think next time you have a situation happen, there is a reason why the other person is doing what they are doing. They are straightening their picture on the wall. This doesn’t not mean it will not hurt us in the end, but we need to learn to forgive in order to find forgiveness. And when you find forgiveness, you might be surprised as how we ever got through life without it. If you are living a life in anger and resentment, then you are trying to row your boat up stream. Let go and follow God’s plan for you, but keep those foundations of love and forgiveness on each shoulder. Look to them often for guidance. After all, God put them there for you.
Sorry I tilted your picture… haha
Kevin aka… The Tall Guy With The Camera