My mother had left each of us a note before she died, tuck away in her nightstand, not to be found until a few weeks after her passing. She had a message for each of us, and it wasn’t sweet words of past memories, her words her bold and precise.
In my letter, she mentioned how difficult I was as a child, going through life’s challenges and obstacles. Some of her words were harsh and eye opening about not judging people, not letting certain things take away your joy. But her ending words were simple….. “Do on to others, as you would have them do onto you.” No, these words are not new, but how often did I or do I follow them? How often do I let daily obstacles take away my joy, my happiness, my path I chose to follow?
Over the past several years, I have allowed her passing to put me in a small box, feeling like I was trapped. This was my own “padded room” that I had built around myself, feeling lost and waiting for the right answer to open the door to get out. The problem was, I let my emotions take over a huge portion of my life, hiding away and only peeking out from time to time.
One day I had a thought from one of the sentences in my mom’s letter to me….. a part of it said “It’s not all about you.” How often do we make life “about us” on a daily basis, several times a day? If we could see life through another person’s eyes, we might find more pain in them, then we do for ourselves. You don’t know what goes on in another person’s life.
What can we do to change it? Dr Wayne Dyer said it best…. “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Take whatever circumstance you have and look at it differently. Instead of a threat or something difficult, “change it” to a challenge that will help you grow. After all, growth through life’s experiences is true knowledge that we can pass on and share to others, so they too may learn and grow.
So it’s not all about you…. it’s al about what you do durning your short time on this Earth. Actor Michael Landon once said… “Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say, Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.”