What is total forgiveness? It goes much more deeper than just the definition of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a two way street. Not only do you want to forgive, but you need it as well even if the fault of the circumstances doesn’t point to you. No matter the situation, you need to look at it from all vantage points. Why did this person do this to you? What did you do in return? Why does the situation keep resurfacing and are you feeding into that fire?
There is a rabbit hole of endless questions that you will always want to know why the situation even happened to begin with. But all you can is let it “smolder”, and don’t throw gas on the fire. So why does this person have such an issue with you? You have to realize that some people, good and bad, don’t know any better. It’s their way of getting a whatever attention they can from other people. They want people to feel pity for them and everything that happens in life surrounds only their feelings.
Step one, forgive. When you give forgiveness, you will receive it as well, not necessarily from that person, but you will get it. You get what you give, reap what you sow.
Step Two, Realize that you can not always understand why or how, but just know the outcome will be in your favor when you do good things.
Step Three, Pray. Mother Teresa said we need to do this more and more on a daily basis, but not just when we are “in need”, but just everyday conversation.
Step Four, Allow time (even if it seems to drag on), to run its course. All things (thoughts and purpose) have to end. If you keep the thoughts alive in your mind, then you will continue to feed the bad energy that was created. Let it go.
Step Five. Live your life like the situation didn’t happen. This will bring a new energy to help end all things bad. In your mind, you know, whatever the circumstance, wasn’t your fault, you just happen to cross paths with a negative energy flow. Keep moving forward and do good things, for all things will end.
Forgiveness come in many ways. Allow yourself to give it, even when it’s hard to do. In the end, total forgiveness will set your troubled heart free.